What you need are the following:
Latest 2x2 colored picture
Partner's copy of passport (scanned or photocopy)
Legalised Marriage contract
Legalised Birth certificate
Exam Result (PASSED)
Travel Insurance valid for 6 months (for D+C visa)
There are 2 different kinds of visa:
The C visa which you don't need a travel insurance anymore but you can't go out of the country while you don't have your residence Permit.
The D+C visa which you have to get a travel insurance and you can stroll at other european countries while waiting for the residence permit.
If you had the advice from IND, you don't need to pay anything in the embassy. Just prepare money for the Delbros (sending the visa in your place) if you are far from Makati. It is much easier than picking up you visa.